The Nothing Box - Drives Women Crazy


There is no disputing that men and women are different. Even though you may be in a happy relationship built on friendship and respect, or experiencing the exhilaration of a passionate relationship that has you convinced you were destined to be together, you will eventually become aware (if you haven’t already), that men and women ‘think’ differently. 

According to Mark Gungor (national marriage expert), men and women act differently, they communicate differently and most importantly they ‘think’ differently. He calls the difference, 'The Laws of Related Physics', specifically, how men and women are wired differently. This probably comes as no surprise to most of us, and although a somewhat humourous approach to the subject, Mark Gungor’s explanation in the You Tube video below, is really very insightful.

It is taken from Marks weekend seminar, ‘Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage’. The key point in this video is about a secret place that men love to go to, called, ‘The Nothing Box’. Mark believes that of the many struggles couples face in marriage it is the result of a ‘head’ problem and not a ‘heart’ problem.

Take the time to watch this video. You may find it interesting. You may find it informative. But, you will definitely find it entertaining.

Men's and Women's Brains (The Nothing Box)
- Mark Gungor

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The 3 Most Powerful Key Strokes


A keyboard contains many different keys, or key strokes that a user can use. In general, there are about 80 – 110 keys in a computer keyboard. These keys vary according to the brand of keyboard, but the shape, size and spacing of keys are almost the same for all keyboards, which is referred to as QWERTY.

With technology as it is today, most people are aware of computing and the usage of the computer keyboard. The keyboard is an input device that functions in accordance to the instructions of the user. Typing of course is the main purpose of a keyboard – to use the written word for information, creativity and communication.

As well as the letters on a keyboard, there are numerals, signs, symbols and icons, which were originally provided to support words and punctuation. And then along came the ability to use these punctuation marks to form emoticons.

An emoticon is a textual expression representing the face of a writer's mood or facial expression. These days nearly everyone that uses a computer understands the use of emoticons to express in written form, a feeling they are trying to convey. The most common emoticon is the smile. And it is by far my favourite.

In the comments section below each article on Triond, you will often see a smile. The most common usage for emoticons is in chat applications. This is where I first discovered – the smile. The ‘smile’ is created by connecting two or three punctuation marks together. I prefer to use :-) Colon, Hyphen, Right Parentheses, but there are other ways of creating a smile also.

A list of emoticons and how to create them: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_emoticons

A verse explaining why I consider the Colon, Hyphen and Right Parentheses to be, ‘The 3 Most Powerful Key Strokes’:

A Smile

A smile cost nothing, but gives much.
It enriches those who receive,
without making poorer those who give. 

It takes but a moment,
but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.

None is so rich or mighty that he can get along without it, 
and none is so poor but that he can be made rich by it.

A smile creates happiness in the home,
fosters good will in business,
and is the countersign of friendship. 

It brings rest to the weary,
cheer to the discouraged,
sunshine to the sad,
and is nature's best antidote for trouble.

Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen,
for it is something that is of no value to anyone
until it is given away.

Some people are too tired to give you a smile.
Give them one of yours,
as none needs a smile so much, as he who has no more to give!

– Anonymous

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Aromatherapy - Essential Oils Alternatives

Many people use pleasant aromas to make their environment more enjoyable. While certain types of essential oils can be quite expensive in their undiluted form, there are alternative ways of using aromatherapy which are very affordable. Aromatherapy techniques include long term additions, such as flowers or pot pourri, while vapourisers, aromatic candles, room sprays and incense (joss sticks), have always been a very popular way of infusing an environment with rich, potent scents.

The benefits of essential oils are commonly obtained by the process of evaporation, through the use of a candle or electronic vapouriser, or a homemade heater. This is where the essential oils are added to a solution of water and heated to create an aromatic environment. Although certain types of pure essential oils can be quite expensive to purchase, some are also available in a blended (diluted) form at a much cheaper cost. Keep in mind however, that as the purer forms of essential oils have a very high potency, only a few drops are needed at a time.

Fresh Flowers
Fragrant plants will enhance any room. Depending upon your geographical area, season, and personal preference, fresh flowers such as Roses, Gardenia, Jasmine, Hyacinths, and Lilacs are examples of fresh flowers which will provide your environment with both colour and aroma. Cutting the ends of the stems of the flowers and changing the water daily, lengthens the life of most fresh flowers. I have also heard that sugar or aspirin also prolongs the life of fresh flowers, but I have not tried this method.

Pot Pourri
A bowl of dried flowers, dried herbs, pieces of aromatic wood, cloves and pine cones makes a great natural pot pourri. To make pot pourri with essential oils, a fixative such as orris root powder is used for preservation. Once the ingredients are mixed (the fixative, dried flowers or fruits), add some fragrant oils and seal in a glass container. Leave for two weeks in a cool dark place, mixing it daily for the first three days. After two weeks, bring it out and place in the desired container. Enjoy the aroma for months.

Incense or Joss sticks
Incense or Joss sticks infuse an environment with rich potent scents by releasing their fragrance when burned. The plants used to make incense are those whose fragrances tend to be strong. There are many forms of incense available, but they are all derived from dried aromatic herbs. Joss sticks are strips of incense which are usually held at an angle by a thin wooded strip. Incense is also moulded into cones or coils for easy use. Powdered incense can be sprinkled on hot charcoal blocks to release its scent.

Scented candles provide a subtle room fragrance and relaxing atmosphere. You can purchase scented candles from many different types of stores, or you can make an unscented candle into a scented candle with essential oils. To do this, light an unscented candle and leave it to burn until there is a small pool of melted wax around the wick. Ensure the volatile oil does not come into contact with a flame, by blowing out the candle before adding a few drops of essential oil to the melted wax. Leave the wax to completely harden before relighting.

Room Sprays
Room sprays purchased from household stores are a quick fix for lingering odours and are very common in most households. However room sprays can also be made up to personal preference, and 100% naturally, by mixing 100ml of distilled water and 30ml of essential oil in a small pump spray bottle that has a nozzle. The 30ml of essential oil can be made up of one to three essential oil types together of your choice. Use10ml of each essential oil if you choose to combine three.

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Aromatherapy - Essential Oils Massage


We all know how powerful ‘touch’ can be. It’s a way of expressing love, friendship, comfort, and the first thing we do when we hurt ourselves is automatically touch that area of our body. Massage is pleasurable because it fulfils our need for soothing touch. Massage and aromatherapy essential oils combined, create one of the most enjoyable and beneficial natural healing techniques that has been around since ancient times.

The act of rubbing aromatherapy essential oils into the skin, allows their active ingredients to pass directly into the tissues of the affected area, while massage stokes work to alleviate pain and stiffness, improve circulation and aid relaxation. Drops of essential oil are added to natural carrier oil and applied to skin areas with gentle rubbing. Massage blends should not exceed 1% concentration of essential oils for adults (one drop in a teaspoon).

While there are many professional massage therapists practising various forms of massage, a quick and easy way to benefit from both massage and aromatherapy essentials oils is to add a few drops of the oil to your usual body lotion or moisturiser, and rub it into the affected area. Always be mindful that essential oils that have not been diluted with carrier oils are very potent.

Some essentials oils work better on certain areas of the body than others. They also take effect faster when applied directly to a pulse point. A pulse point is an area on the body where arteries lie close to the surface of the skin. This is where the heartbeat can be felt. The most easily found pulse points are found on the wrist, at the back of the knee and on the side of the neck.

Aromatherapy essential oil blends can be used very effectively when applied in small amounts on the pulse points. These areas allow the essential oil blend to reach the blood supply more quickly than on fleshy areas, where skin and muscle absorb most of the benefits. Over the years I have alleviated many headaches by applying a drop of lavender oil to my wrists and sides of my neck.

 The choice of essential oils for massage depends on the desired effect. Examples of types of essential oils which assist certain conditions are:-

  • To relax aching muscles – Frankincense, Ginger, Sweet Marjoram, Rosemary
  • To ease headaches – Eucalyptus, Lavender, Peppermint, Rosemary
  • To ease hayfever – Chamomile, Eucalyptus
  • To clear a blocked nose – Bergamot, Eucalyptus, Ginger
  • To ease a sore throat – Frankincense, Jasmine, Sandalwood, Tea Tree
  • To ease stomach / period pains – Aniseed, Clary Sage, Juniper Berry, Lavender
  • To ease stomach upsets – Ginger, Mandarin, Peppermint
  • To improve cellulite - Juniper Berry, Geranium, Rosemary
  • To help oily skin – Cypress, Lemon, Mandarin, Tea Tree
  • To moisturise dry skin – Bergamot, Chamomile, Jasmine, Rose, Sandalwood
  • To ease eczema – Chamomile, Geranium, Juniper Berry, Lavender

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Aromatherapy - Essential Oils Vapourisers


Essential oils can be used in a variety of ways to improve your mood and health. Just a few small drops of this natural product can simply be left out on a saucer, or added to pot pourri to make your environment smell beautiful. However, aromatherapy vapourisers are a quick and easy way to give you a much better effect, overall.

How Vapourisers Work:
Vapourisers heat essential oil, which speeds the rate at which it evaporates. This means that the scent molecules pass into the air more rapidly, enabling you to breathe in more ‘scent’ in a shorter period of time. As the vapouriser warms the essential oil, it also heats the air around it. As hot air rises, this causes the air in the room to circulate, spreading the tiny molecules around more quickly.

How To Use Vapouriser Essential Oil:
Vapouriser oil can be used undiluted, or you can purchase special vapouriser blends. For both of these, usually only about three to five drops are needed. Essential oils can be used with different types of vapourisers, but be mindful to include water, as explained below.

Candle Vapourisers:
Candle vapourisers consist of a small bowl of water suspended over a candle, into which a few drops of essential oil are added. The type of candle used is commonly called a tea candle. The heat from the candle causes the oil to vapourise, and evaporate into the air. Candle vapourisers are the most common type of aromatherapy essential oil vapouriser, and they can be purchased in many different styles and colours.

Electronic Vapourisers:
With electronic vapourisers, it is electricity that heats the oil. One type of electric vapouriser consists of a ceramic dish that plugs into the mains. By putting water and a few drops of essential oil into the dish, as it heats up the essential oil will evaporate. Another type is a small ceramic loop that fits over the bulb in a table lamp or light fitting. The heat from the bulb evaporates the essential oil.

Homemade Heaters:
If you would prefer not to purchase any of the vapourisers mentioned above, a good way to make your own is to simply put water and a few drops of essential oil in a saucer, ceramic dish or bottle, on top of a radiator. You can also put a few drops of essential oil onto a wet handkerchief or similarly structured cloth over a radiator.

The examples of vapourisers above have been described for information purposes. Personally, I have always used a candle vapouriser and recommend their use. For safety reasons and peace of mind I prefer to use a vapouriser that only requires the use of a candle which is safely contained in a candle vapouriser.

The best essential oils to use in your vapouriser:
As an antiseptic - to help keep the air free of germs: Benzoine, Eucalyptus, Juniper Berry, Tea Tree and Thyme.
To ease tension - to stop you feeling anxious: Geranium, Juniper Berry, Marjoram, Rose, and Sandalwood.
To energize - to help you wake up in the morning: Bergamot, Black Pepper, Lemon, and Peppermint, Rosemary.
For headaches - to help soothe sore heads: Chamomile, Lavender, Marjoram, Neroli, and Rosemary.
To relax - to help you unwind in the evening: Lavender, Mandarin, Sweet Marjoram, Melissa, and Neroli.
For sensual pleasure – to help create a romantic mood: Cedarwood, Lavender, Patchouli, Rose, and Ylang Ylang.

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