Why Do Friendships End?


Why do friendships end? Does it still leave you wondering at times? It may have to do with how you view friendship, as well as your beliefs about life in general; both are equally important to consider.

There is a quote that attempts to explain why some people come into our lives, either for a short time, for a longer time, or even for life. I have broken it down into the three different aspects below:-

People can come into our lives for a ‘reason’:
  • To meet a need we have expressed.
  • To assist us through some difficulty.
  • To provide us with guidance and support.
  • To aid us physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They are there for the ‘reason’ we need them to be, even though we may not be consciously aware of it. Then, something will ‘happen’ to cause this friendship to end. It may have nothing to do with any ‘wrong doing’. The friendship just – ends. This is because the ‘reason’ for the friendship in the beginning, has been met.

People can come into our lives for a ‘season’:
  • To share, grow or learn.
  • To bring us an experience of peace.
  • To make us have fun, and laugh.
  • To teach us something we have never done.
They are there for a ‘season’, and give us a sense of joy or feelings of satisfaction.  Then, once again, something will ‘happen’ to cause this friendship to end. The friendship just – ends. This is because the ‘season’ of that friendship may have felt like it would continue for years, but the cycle of that season ended.

People can come into our lives, for a ‘lifetime’:
  • To teach us.
  • To learn from us.
  • To share with us; all that we have learned together.
  • To build upon our combined experiences.
Some people believe that we only ever have one life on earth and that even with free will there is a divine plan in place for each of us. Some people believe that we have many lives and that we decide before we start each life what we plan to achieve in that life. In other words, either way, our friendships and the duration of them may well be a large part of our life's purpose.

Even if our friendships were not pre-planned, we each have something to offer one another, and we are all important in the scheme of life. Friendships may come and go, but what we have learned and experienced through them, can last a lifetime - or more.

One of my favourite quotes:
‘We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, but spiritual beings having a human experience.’ Teilhard de Chardin 1881 - 1955

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