Why Do Friendships End?

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Why do friendships end? Does it still leave you wondering at times? It may have to do with how you view friendship, as well as your beliefs about life in general. I believe both are equally important to consider.

There is a quote that attempts to explain why some people come into our lives, either for a short time, for a longer time, or even for life. I have broken it down into the three different aspects below:-

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People can come into our lives for a ‘reason’:

• To meet a need you have expressed.
• To assist you through some difficulty.
• To provide you with guidance and support.
• To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.

They are there for the ‘reason’ you need them to be, even though you may not be consciously aware of it. Then, something will ‘happen’ to cause this friendship to end. It may have nothing to do with any ‘wrong doing’. The friendship just – ends. This is because the ‘reason’ for the friendship in the beginning, has been met.

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People can come into our lives for a ‘season’:

• To share, grow or learn.
• To bring you an experience of peace.
• To make you have fun, and laugh.
• To teach you something you have never done.

They are there for a ‘season’, and give you a sense of joy, and feelings of satisfaction.  Then, once again, something will ‘happen’ to cause this friendship to end. The friendship just – ends. This is because the ‘season’ of that friendship may have felt it would last for years, but the cycle of that season has ended.

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People can come into our lives, for a ‘lifetime’:

• To teach you lifetime lessons.
• To learn from you.
• To share with you; all that you have learned together.
• To build upon your combined experiences.

Some people believe that we only ever have one life on earth, and that even with free will, there is a divine plan in place for each of us. Some people believe that we have many lives, and that we decide before we start our next life, as to what we plan to achieve in that life. In other words, that whether it be ‘good’ or ‘bad’; we have chosen that type of experience before hand, to help us grow spiritually.

Either way, we each have something to offer one another, and we are all important in the scheme of life. Friendships may come and go, but what we have learned and experienced from them, can last a lifetime / lifetimes.

One of my favourite quotes:

‘We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, but spiritual beings having a human experience.’ Teilhard de Chardin 1881 - 1955

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